Support for Sexual Addiction/ Problematic Sexual Behavior
I've studied with the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH) and have been certified by Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS). This background provides me with extensive knowledge and experience treating women, men, and couples struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors as well as their betrayed partners and families.
Problematic Sexual Behavior is an umbrella term used to cover a wide range of out of control sexual behaviors such as Sexual Addiction/Hypersexuality, compulsive pornography use, infidelity, attachment dysregulation, painful sex/arousal challenges, anxiety or depression around sexuality, unhealthy partnerships, or sexual/partnership aversion.
Problematic Sexual Behavior may include compulsive repetition and preoccupation with sexual or romantic thoughts/fantasies, urges, and behaviors. This may look like a man who uses sex or love to deal with stressful experiences in his life or to avoid unpleasant feelings such as loneliness, anxiety, and depression. Or this may be a woman who truly believes all she has to offer a partnership is her sexuality.
Many of my clients report that despite negative consequences, they have felt unable to control the frequency of their sexual/romantic fantasies, urges, behaviors. They continue to participate in behaviors placing themselves and loved ones at emotional and/or physical risk.
After our time together, my clients report significant improvement in personal relationships, social activities, work, and other important areas of life. Where they once felt feelings of guilt, shame, sadness, regret, or constant fear about being caught or exposed, they now feel hope, recovery, strength, and authenticity.
Here’s a quick screening for the Problematic Sexual Behavior known as 'Sexual Addiction" (Carnes, et.al- 2012)
1. Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts? [Preoccupied]
2. Do you hide some of your sexual behavior from others? [Ashamed]
3. Have you ever sought help for sexual behavior you did not like? [Treatment]
4. Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behavior? [Hurt others]
5. Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire? [Out of control]
6. When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterwards? [Sad]
A positive response to just one would indicate a need for additional assessment. Two or more indicates sexual addiction.